I’d let it go and not mention it. But if it’s going to continue to bother you, then you need to say something. “Hey I like looking at your profile/pictures every now and then, and saw you deleted.”
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There’s a difference between not liking to text a lot or chat digitally and being incapable at conversing with another person. Someone who just doesn’t like to text will still be entertaining to talk to via text. I’m also not a fan of the online dating community, the fact that you can write someone off without meeting them is ludicrous. Personally I try to spend less time on my phone and try my best to organise social face to face meetings with friends over phone and that is what a phone is best for. For someone that has a perfectly easy time meeting women in real life going into online dating cold is going to be like running face first into a brick wall.
Just like social media, it’s a brain hack into your reward centre. All about anticipation and payoff… But only in terms of matches, or receiving messages; the elements the platform can control to keep you hooked. Recreating an account takes minutes.
Answer the question about what you’re pet peeves are and say you hate slow walkers. Just started the online thing seriously across a few apps, and I cant wait for my subscriptions to end so I can uninstall them all. Once you move to text, chat a bit more, when there’s a good moment for it schedule a date ASAP.
Try to get the conversation to move to text asap. I have talked to hundreds of women on these apps over the past 10 months or so. Women that don’t want to give you their number aren’t invested in finding someone to date. I think glory holes are starting to make a comeback. I’ve been strategically placing glory holes around town that I advertise on Facebook and have been using those recently in lieu of dating apps.
Keep conversation to as little as possible between then and your date. That’s how you end up disappointed. There’s no way they can end up living up to what you’ve built them into. I doubt he has been banned, he’s very respectful and considerate in his tone when texting.
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I burned through all the users in a 500 mile radius of me on POF, it is mind blowing how little effort goes into dating profiles. I doubt most of those were even read. Only got 4 replies, counting scammers. Put some nonsense in your profile. Keep in simple but give them something to latch on to and an easy opener. Want the easiest one ever?
I deleted all the dating apps
I don’t understand why tinder is popular or how anyone has success. As a guy I have a really, really easy time at the bar or social events. Can’t get a match with someone attractive to save my life. I just don’t understand dating apps, or the draw. I did not delete my account but I haven’t been meeting or talking to anyone else. I just open the app every other day to swipe a little but that’s it.
We have been seeing each other once every week or every 2 weeks since end of January. Our work schedule and family commitments make it hard to meet more frequently. We have daily communication via texting but the texts aren’t super frequent, they’re more like daily check-ins. It’s mostly chit chat about our week whenever we meet, and what’s going on around us. He mentioned its important to get to know someone before making it official/exclusive, so I figured he is the kind to take things slow. He’s quite an intense and serious dude as well.
One guy I’m seeing now I met while we were both wasted at a bar. Funnily enough, it was not a ONS situation and he has arranged some really fun, thoughtful dates and we’re both really enjoying our time together. In the end it might still not be for you but as a tool it’s completely fine.
Especially if you live in a large city and don’t have a lot of time. Stay away from tinder though, it’s by far the hardest one of book of sex these apps to have any success on for a normal guy. It’s still possible but it’s way too time consuming for it to be worth it.
If there is a swipe limit on the app you use be more selective but not too selective, it’ll reset the next day. If you think you might even remotely be interested swipe them. Worry about it later once you actually match. But he could of also been banned. Apparently banned accounts show the same as deleted by user.
I noticed less than 2 weeks ago he deleted his bumble account , which really surprised me because it happened out of nowhere. We are still texting a little every day, even updated me about his life, friends and new job offers, so I don’t think it’s anything to be worried about. We confirmed our next plans to meet for drinks after I’m back from my trip. Just wondering, if this is something I should be concerned about and bring up? I was thinking of waiting for him to say something since he was the one who did it. It’s weird when I was younger I had a really hard time with in person interactions.
It’s totally possible to meet in person. Catching a vibe IRL is just more exciting. I know the advice to “Put yourself out there.” is vague and almost annoying but just being approachable and friendly can be all you need.